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Hey Everyone! My name’s Alex! Here’s my story …. I posted this in the gay section as well, just wondered what you’ll thought! Thanks

Okay so I am a 23 year old college athlete, life is great, but my mind is going crazy. I have a girlfriend, have had one for 2 years now, it’s intense, love her to death but I have an issue I need to figure out and need some advice. Hopefully this forum is where I can come too talk about my issue and get feedback!

Ever since I can remember, say about 15 I have been looking at men in some way or another. I can remember getting home from school and going to look at porn and I would watch straight porn but for some reason watch the guy, or watch the guy more than the women. It wasn’t anything I thought of, it was just a little weird I thought. It eventually went to me watching gay porn once a month or so, I got worried, wasn’t sure what was going on! It was eating at me, but I didn’t have anyone to turn too or talk to so I just let it slide.  Read the rest of this entry »

Hey Everyone! My name’s Alex! Here’s my story …. I posted this in the gay section as well, just wondered what you’ll thought! Thanks Okay so I am a 23 year old college athlete, life is great, but my mind is going crazy. I have a girlfriend, have had one for 2 years now, it’s [...]

I saw this on the request list for IAmA. I’m not really sure what to explain about the situation. I was raised LDS until I was 18 and my family was trying to convince me to go on a mission. I simply couldn’t keep a clean conscience about being gay and continuing further down the [...]

Journey

From Mark P Minervini

I handed my parents the letter I had written. It was not how I wanted to tell them, but after being home a week and not being able to get up the courage to come out and say it—after they had tried to bully it out of me more than once—I decided it was the only way it was going to get done. So I gave it to my mother to read with my father, and continued to play Nintendo.

They called me downstairs. My mother looked a little distraught, but fine. My father seemed okay, too. We talked for a little while. I explained why I was in therapy. It wasn’t because I was gay, or had any problems with that. I had problems relating to people, with making friends and keeping them, and with coping with college life, with a whole new experience. (To tell the truth, I think I just needed someone to complain to.) They accepted that, and things were okay.

What I didn’t realize at the time was what that letter represented, what a turning point this was in my life, and what freedoms I had gained for myself. Read the rest of this entry »

Journey From Mark P Minervini I handed my parents the letter I had written. It was not how I wanted to tell them, but after being home a week and not being able to get up the courage to come out and say it—after they had tried to bully it out of me more than [...]

What happened when you first met someone? One of the most popular trends on Twitter right now is #WhenIFirstMet, where people talk about their first encounters.

I wondered how this trend would read with a gay spin, so I thought it would be great to start it off here. I’ll go first:

“When I first met him, I thought he was disgusting. We’ve been best friends ever since.”

“When I first met him, I knew we were related.”

“When I first met her, I wanted to take her home.”

These are just a few of my first encounters with a few people and a pet that are important in my life. (Can you guess which one is about the dog?)

What happened when you first met someone? One of the most popular trends on Twitter right now is #WhenIFirstMet, where people talk about their first encounters. I wondered how this trend would read with a gay spin, so I thought it would be great to start it off here. I’ll go first: “When I first [...]

81 years old gay man comes out

James Randi comes out as gay. He discusses his life as a closeted gay man, and why he is now at age 81 coming out, and why he hasn’t been publicly open about his sexuality sooner. He describes the possible impact his coming out may have on his tireless work advancing skepticism and critical thinking. He discusses his atheism, and whether it, or his sexual orientation, influences the mission of the James Randi Educational Foundation. He talks about gay rights issues such as marriage equality.  He discusses his detractors and what they might make of the news of his homosexuality. And he explores the relevance of gay rights to the skeptical movement. 

To listen the audio interview of James Randi, click http://www.forgoodreason.org/james_randi_a_skeptic_comes_out_at_81

James Randi comes out as gay. He discusses his life as a closeted gay man, and why he is now at age 81 coming out, and why he hasn’t been publicly open about his sexuality sooner. He describes the possible impact his coming out may have on his tireless work advancing skepticism and critical thinking. [...]

The South African Charl van der Berg won the World Wide Mr. Gay in Norway last week amidst controversy of his porno past. A restaurant manager from Cape Town he now holds this coveted title and will be the ambassador of the gay community for the next year. Also known as “Chad” in the local porn industry, apart from his tiara, he also boasts crown jewels of 8 inches, uncut and is a top and likes masturbating in front of the camera for your viewing pleasure. The director of Mr. Gay World zealously defended their position for choosing van der Berg as their winner, painting van der Berg as another casualty of the exploitative porn industry. This led me to ask, can one really be a helpless victim if you knowingly expose yourself to the dodgy world of adult entertainment?

In a statement Mr. Gay World was quoted as saying “Porn is an integral part of the gay lifestyle – it’s just that most guys don’t have the guts to do what I did.” This is true, porn does feature significantly in the gay community and very few gay men can deny possessing or having watched pornography (well the honest ones at least). However, actually starring in one is a whole different “ball game”. Apart from the odd amateur home movies (that are not meant for mass release) I honestly don’t have any friends or acquaintances that have starred in an adult film. Whether my social circle lacks the guts to bare it all on camera is open to debate but I do suspect that this has less to do with actual guts and more to do with repercussions.

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Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Uganda: Rights Not Repression

Gay Ugandans may be sentenced to death if legislation being debated right now passes.

High level international condemnation has just pushed the President to send the bill for review, but Ugandan allies say only a worldwide outcry could tip Parliamentarians away from discrimination, alarming them with global isolation.

There are just a few days left – please sign the petition to oppose Uganda’s anti-gay law and send it on to friends and family and it will be delivered to Uganda’s politicians, donors and embassies around the world.

To sign the petition please click HERE!

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Labels: Activism, Africa, Discrimination, Homophobia, Politics, Uganda

Monday, March 1, 2010

I See Dead People

When hubby and I bought our new home we got more than we had bargained for. You see apart from minor- that later turned into major renovations we also inherited a tenant that lurks around our property and enjoys playing tricks on us. Whether you believe it or not, we have a ghost! The late husband of the previous owner‘s spirit still roams around and whenever we criticize any of his former DIY projects that we now have to fix, or do anything he disapproves off he loses his temper with poltergeist like flare.
Our haunting started out like most do: We moved in! At first it started with small annoyances for which there could have been any number of scientific explanations. A light bulb exploding hardly would raise any suspicion of paranormal activity, but when it happens frequently and a pattern that has nothing to do with faulty electrical wiring emerges one starts to think twice. The same holds true for our elaborate alarms system that would go off at the most inconvenient times for no earthly reason and even after being inspected by a technician no fault with the system could be identified. And no, it’s not just electrical interference through which he likes making his presence known; he also has a sense of humor which I hardly find amusing. Our ghost likes hiding sunglasses, keys and mobile phones and he especially enjoys doing this when you are late for work. The punch line being that once you return home the item would be placed neatly back at the same spot where you were looking for it that morning.
Perhaps the strangest event was when friends of ours came over to visit with their kids. We had only been living here for two weeks and removed the majority of the knick knacks that were hidden and scattered around the garden, ranging from flower pots, broken water features and hideous molded sculptures. Our friend, her daughter and youngest son ventured into our back garden and all three saw the sculpture of a monkey – the same sculpture that we removed the week prior and were no longer there! After their visit the daughter told her mother that she didn’t like our house and the father concurred later telling us that he sensed a spirit in and around our home.
The previous owners popped by our house a week later to bring the last set of keys we were owed. Knowing that wife and daughter of our ghost were pretty open-minded I told them what was happening in the house. Not exactly knowing what reaction I was seeking I was flabbergasted by their response. They confirmed that the husband and father was still in the house and was sitting on our bed in our bedroom. After briefly hyperventilating thinking we have had sex on that bed where the ghost is sitting, I tried to composed myself and before I could prevent the words from spewing out of my mouth I said “Well then, Tell him to leave – God damn it!” They responded by saying he would leave when he was ready to go. Not at all the answer I was hoping for as I was secretly wishing they would leave him a spiritual forwarding address and accompanying taxi fare.
The old man’s favorite spot on the property was a workshop in which he used to build model trains. This spot I suspect was also his hiding place when he wanted peace and quiet and to get away from his wife and daughter. When we moved in his workshop seemed the perfect place for an outside entertainment area and it was promptly demolished and revamped to become a covered Moroccan Patio. We also noticed that this spot was the one place on the property our cats refused to go near. As work progressed trouble started, first there was a wasp infestation that took weeks to chase away, and then the one automated garage door refused to work and would open by itself whenever it felt like it. The final straw was this past weekend with our housewarming. We decided to have the party under the patio and everything was going well up until round about 11:30 pm – our ghost’s bedtime. He decided we partied enough and electricity to the patio area was cut off. Several trips to the main power board inside the house were pointless as the power kept tripping, so we finished off the party under moonlight with candles. The next morning, in denial about our haunting yet again, I tried to find the electrical problem, and again there was none and everything was working perfectly and was back to normal.
We live in a haunted house with an old man that does not like being criticized. I suspect he may also disapprove of our live style, friends, pets, taste in furniture and art. He died just over a year and a half ago and doesn’t seem like he wants to leave. Even though he is still here, it is strange but I am not scared. It’s kind of comforting knowing I am not alone on the property when no-one else is around. He may stay for as long as he wishes on condition that he doesn’t break anything else, accept the fact that the queers have moved in and due to the fact that he’s dead he forfeits any voting rights or opinions regarding future alteration to the property.

…Till next time….

Gay Ghost (pt 1)

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Labels: Ghosts, Home, Renovations

Monday, February 22, 2010

Porn Star or Ambassador?

The South African Charl van der Berg won the World Wide Mr. Gay in Norway last week amidst controversy of his porno past. A restaurant manager from Cape Town he now holds this coveted title and will be the ambassador of the gay community for the next year. Also known as “Chad” in the local porn industry, apart from his tiara, he also boasts crown jewels of 8 inches, uncut and is a top and likes masturbating in front of the camera for your viewing pleasure. The director of Mr. Gay World zealously defended their position for choosing van der Berg as their winner, painting van der Berg as another casualty of the exploitative porn industry. This led me to ask, can one really be a helpless victim if you knowingly expose yourself to the dodgy world of adult entertainment?

In a statement Mr. Gay World was quoted as saying “Porn is an integral part of the gay lifestyle – it’s just that most guys don’t have the guts to do what I did.” This is true, porn does feature significantly in the gay community and very few gay men can deny possessing or having watched pornography (well the honest ones at least). However, actually starring in one is a whole different “ball game”. Apart from the odd amateur home movies (that are not meant for mass release) I honestly don’t have any friends or acquaintances that have starred in an adult film. Whether my social circle lacks the guts to bare it all on camera is open to debate but I do suspect that this has less to do with actual guts and more to do with repercussions.

The South African Charl van der Berg won the World Wide Mr. Gay in Norway last week amidst controversy of his porno past. A restaurant manager from Cape Town he now holds this coveted title and will be the ambassador of the gay community for the next year. Also known as “Chad” in the local [...]

Jeremy Williams is a University of Louisiana-Lafayette political science major and pre law student. Working as a paralegal, he is very close to graduating school with a” near-perfect” GPA. He has also studied Secondary Education.

But in the early days of his college tenure, Jeremy Williams was burning the midnight oil with a second job. He was a Mustang power bottom. His screen name was Jay Armstrong, and you may have seen him in such hardcore porn films as Alabama Takedown, Big Muscle, and Forced Entry, a film in which he famously took a double-penetration. Ok, then.

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Jeremy Williams is a University of Louisiana-Lafayette political science major and pre law student. Working as a paralegal, he is very close to graduating school with a” near-perfect” GPA. He has also studied Secondary Education. But in the early days of his college tenure, Jeremy Williams was burning the midnight oil with a second job. [...]

Help Jennie to figure out what to do next!

“Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. Before we got married he asked if i would every have a three-some cause he thinks it’ll be really sexy to see me with another man. I had told him that i don’t swing that way and he was ok with it. Lately he has been brining it up again, and i refuse to do it. I am very uncomfortable with the idea. He says that there is the void he has to fill if i don’t have sex with another man for him. He has only told me he’ll start going out drinking or going out to the titty-bar to fill this “void” but doesn’t know it that will fullfill him or not. I am afraid this is going to really come between out relationship if he goes out to fill the “void”. In fact, he might have more of a “void” if he does something to hurt me so bad cause he’ll lose me and his son. How do i handle this? How do i apprach him about this?”

-Jennie

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There are some men that want their wife/woman to have a menage a trois with another woman. But if your husband wants to have a threesome with another man, he’s definetely got some bi sexual/gay tendencies going on. And unfortunately that will probably never go away. Because straight men don’t fantasize about having a threesome with another man. Period! So, to get to the point, you have a problem on your hands, to say the least. You said that you are uncomfortable with the idea and you refuse to do it and he has threaten to go out and fill this “void” by drinking or going to a titty bar, which shows that his urge is strong and he is being inconsiderate of how you feel about this and how his actions will affect your marriage. You have to put your foot down and be firm with him that you will not be a part of a threesome with another man. And you must let him know that if he tries to fill that “void” in other ways, it will hurt your marriage. If he really loves you and want the marriage to work, he will let it all go in order to make his marriage work. But if he still insist on having a threesome with a man, and/or if he keeps telling you that he is going to fill the “void” elsewhere; then the writing is on the wall. Your husband is bi sexual or gay, and his urge to be with a man is inevitable. (If he hasn’t already been with men.) Unless you can live with the fact that your husband is bi sexual/gay, and eventually will act on those tendencies, with or without you, then you must seriously consider getting out of that marriage before “all hell breaks loose”. And if you stay in the marriage, then everything that happens is all on you.

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Help Jennie to figure out what to do next! “Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. Before we got married he asked if i would every have a three-some cause he thinks it’ll be really sexy to see me with another man. I had told him that i don’t swing that way [...]

The National Enquirer says Anderson Cooper and his boyfriend will adopt a Haitian baby. Even crazier than that, the National Enquirer is talking about Cooper’s boyfriend on the front page.

Unlike when Page Six made a veiled reference to his relationship with Benjamin Maisani, this story is putting it out there in every supermarket checkout and news stand in America.

After saving one on national television, Anderson is said to be bringing home a Haitian orphan of his own and will raise it with Maisani.

You know, the whole “adopting a baby” thing is just a front, so the Enquirer has a reason to talk about his personal life.

Source: gone-hollywood.com

The National Enquirer says Anderson Cooper and his boyfriend will adopt a Haitian baby. Even crazier than that, the National Enquirer is talking about Cooper’s boyfriend on the front page. Unlike when Page Six made a veiled reference to his relationship with Benjamin Maisani, this story is putting it out there in every supermarket checkout [...]