“Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. Before we got married he asked if i would every have a three-some cause he thinks it’ll be really sexy to see me with another man. I had told him that i don’t swing that way and he was ok with it. Lately he has been brining it up again, and i refuse to do it. I am very uncomfortable with the idea. He says that there is the void he has to fill if i don’t have sex with another man for him. He has only told me he’ll start going out drinking or going out to the titty-bar to fill this “void” but doesn’t know it that will fullfill him or not. I am afraid this is going to really come between out relationship if he goes out to fill the “void”. In fact, he might have more of a “void” if he does something to hurt me so bad cause he’ll lose me and his son. How do i handle this? How do i apprach him about this?”

-Jennie

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There are some men that want their wife/woman to have a menage a trois with another woman. But if your husband wants to have a threesome with another man, he’s definetely got some bi sexual/gay tendencies going on. And unfortunately that will probably never go away. Because straight men don’t fantasize about having a threesome with another man. Period! So, to get to the point, you have a problem on your hands, to say the least. You said that you are uncomfortable with the idea and you refuse to do it and he has threaten to go out and fill this “void” by drinking or going to a titty bar, which shows that his urge is strong and he is being inconsiderate of how you feel about this and how his actions will affect your marriage. You have to put your foot down and be firm with him that you will not be a part of a threesome with another man. And you must let him know that if he tries to fill that “void” in other ways, it will hurt your marriage. If he really loves you and want the marriage to work, he will let it all go in order to make his marriage work. But if he still insist on having a threesome with a man, and/or if he keeps telling you that he is going to fill the “void” elsewhere; then the writing is on the wall. Your husband is bi sexual or gay, and his urge to be with a man is inevitable. (If he hasn’t already been with men.) Unless you can live with the fact that your husband is bi sexual/gay, and eventually will act on those tendencies, with or without you, then you must seriously consider getting out of that marriage before “all hell breaks loose”. And if you stay in the marriage, then everything that happens is all on you.

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